Barry Speaks Volume Two

I’m taking stab at ten more questions.  Here they are:

  1. Gayle Rogers writes: “Do you think Dave Ramsay saved your marriage or hurt it?”  This is an interesting question.  Damn Ramsey is a part of our lives and has totally changed our basic financial structure but I would not say that this system has had any effect on our marriage either way.  We have been together on this thing, the marriage, since the beginning, in both good times and bad, and the only effect it  has had on us is to strengthen our love for each other.
  2. Mark writes:  “if I send you my address could you mail me a pint of water from coal creek ? ? ?”  Yes.  Some people do not believe that Coal Creek is an actual creek, but it does exist and I can prove it in the form of muddy water in a 12 ounce bottle.
  3. Kait writes: “So, tell us Barry, would you love another little April or Clay running around the house?”  The short answer is yes, if we could get them at 6 months and April didn’t have to be pregnant.  Then again, I’m not sure that I want to baby proof the house.
  4. jenny writes: “Clay- in the “Bust It” dance montage, there is moment (around the 2:00 mark) where April gives you this… look. It is THE look- one of total love.
  so the question is this…
how’d you get so lucky?”  I don’t know.  I noticed that look too and she looks really cute.  I am lucky.
  5. Betsy writes: “How do you get your kids to dance in the videos?”  Only 25% of our kids actually participate without a lot of cajoling.  The others usually come around after a few minutes of watching us…that is, the male others.  The girl is hopeless.
  6. Kathleen writes: “What qualities will you tell your children to look for in a prospective mate?”  We have two requirements for our kids: 1) they have to be Christian; and 2) they have to be tall.  Now, before I get a lot of comments saying that we are unreasonable, I have to say that we are tall people.  A short person would just feel out of place…and we would make fun of them non-stop with a lot of pointing and laughing.
  7. Mother of Pearl writes:  “I have become convinced that my dishwasher sounds just like the Tardis. I can’t decide if this means I am watching too much Doctor Who or not enough. What do you think?”  You used the word Tardis in a sentence.  You are watching too much Dr. Who.
  8. Sunny writes “do you think shoes can be sexy? And if you do, do you think some shoes are too sexy to be worn to church (stilletto heels, for example)?”  I know you’ve already been kicked out of your church but I wanted to make sure you have my response.  The answers are yes and yes.  April wears a pair of black stilletto heals that I picked out for her to church, and I’m surprised I don’t get kicked out when she wears them.
  9. Julianna writes: “What’ your favorite sport to play, not watch?”  Basketball by a mile.  I started playing it rather late in my childhood at 15 but I got hooked and have been playing it ever since.  I have noticed that I’m no longer the fastest or have the highest vertical so the game has taken on more of an outside shot and using my head rather than the “stuff it down their throat” game I used to play.  But I still love it.
  10. Stephanie writes “I was wondering if architects sometimes still draw blueprints by hand, or do you use the computer all the time? Also, did you have to design a building and draw the blueprints by hand when you were in college?”  The term Blueprints is actually a dated term.  It identified the “white lines on a blue background” prints that were popular in the mid 20th century.  But I find that the term is kind of stuck in people’s minds and it is used to describe just about any technical drawing that architects produce.  In college we did everything by hand, today nearly 100% of drawings are computer generated.  Some smaller firms will still use the hand drawn stuff but they are few and far between.  Drawing today is being redefined.  The process I use in my firm is to actually model the building in virtual space and then let drawings reflect that.  It makes for a much better process and communication with the client.  Uh, bored yet?

Finally, many of you are asking about the love story.  I am working on the next installment.  I hope to have it soon and I think you’ll like this next one.  It has a pretty important event in it.  A huge turning point…okay, no more.  I’ll try to have it soon now that the kids basketball seasons are nearing an end.

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22 comments to Barry Speaks Volume Two

  • I’m with you all the way on #6, although my kid’s potential mates don’t necessarily have to be tall. Short or tall they need to be prepared for the pointing and laughing.

  • I have a tall boy about Ellen’s age, just in case you weren’t aware. Of course, tall is a relative term. I think he’s up to about 6’2″ now. That might not be tall enough. He’s funny as heck, too. Oh, and also a Christian. Do you believe in arranged marriages?

  • I’m loving your answers. Really loving them.

  • I hope you believe in arranged marriages because I think it would make your blog even more interesting in a few years!
    Your answers are excellent!

  • Barry, because of your love for basketball, you might find this super cool. My husband was on the bench with Dirk (sp?) and Kolbi while Usher sang in concert at the NBA All Star Game.

    We’re not really cool or anything; he’s a cop and was commanded to sit 18 inches from the coach–facing the coach. Can anyone say awkward? He had to maintain this position for the entire game in order to see the crowd and the court simultaneously.

  • jancd

    It’s always fun to read your stuff. Keep it coming.

  • Ms Brenda

    I too have a tall son. He is already used to pointing and laughing. He is not ready for marriage at this point, but would you be interested in adoption? He’s almost 14 and mostly potty trained.

  • Michelle S in TN

    I am 5’1″ & 120lbs. My husband is 6’3″ & 250 lbs; 17yr old son almost 6′; 12yr old son is already several inches taller than I and the 6 yr should pass me by 10 or 11 yrs old. But never doubt that this shorty can hang with with all my boys no matter what the sport! I AM SHOCKED THAT “BARRY” WOULD DISCRIMINATE AGAINST THE VERTICALLY CHALLENGED IN THIS WAY!!!


  • Jennifer H

    Michelle S in TN sounds like a real shrimp with a chip on her shoulder. Get over it shorty!

    (Michelle S’s younger but taller sister)

  • Michelle S in TN

    See? I have been dealing with this my entire life and it doesn’t bother me one bit. PS. Both of my younger sisters are also taller than I but… I AM MOM’S FAVORITE!… She told me so.

  • Southern MN Gal

    I am LOVING the Barry posts…and the love story…and April’s posts. Heck, I love the whole blog! But today, Michele and Jennifer in the comments are making me snort out loud (no, I’m not kidding about that). You two sound EXACTLY like my 2 sisters and I!! Keep up the great work Barry and April!!

  • Lauren M

    This has nothing to do with this post, but I was so excited that they are putting an Aldi in my neighborhood! This blog is the sole reason I have even heard of Aldi, making me miles ahead of all my friends! :) I can’t wait to save a ton of money. And PS…Love the Ask Barry posts!

  • Does Michelle S realize she is exactly 1/2 of her husband’s size ? They would be a perfect figure skating pair, according to the Olympic narrators !

  • Michelle S in TN

    Seeing my husband Bill on ice skates would make me snort out loud. Picture this… 6’3″ of bald, beer bellied, bow legged and baseball bootied deliciousness covered in padding from head to toe and bright blue eyes peering through a motorcycle helmet (worn to prevent head injuries) attempting to skate and dance at the same time… Yep, I’m am laughing out loud now. But I wouldn’t trade him for anyone else on earth.

  • I can’t decide what is more funny, your answers or Jenni’s comment. Arranged marriages! She is too funny!

  • great answers! great comments! i’m bummed about not hearing about rechelle… but i guess not everything is for us to know.
    anyway- would like to toss our hat into the ring concerning arranged marriages. we have a 2 and 3 year old daughters- we’re homesteaders, too, and i’m sure we could come to some sort of agreement? :) your kids seem great!

  • ingrid

    Dear Barry,
    It’s the darndest thing, why do you look completely different in every picture of you? It must be some sort of magical quality!

  • Carol

    HELP, these are great answers, but volume 2 is coming up on both picture links. I only surf the net on Sundays during Lent, so here I am checking this out and was looking for the first batch of questions. fun stuff. (and the gold medal winning goal just went to Canada…boo!) Thanks!

  • I am short among tall people…5’even. You learn to live with the jeers and the butts-in-the-face and being an arm rest, etc.

    What’s hard to live with is the placing-often-used-items-way-out-of-reach thing that comes when you marry a tall person. That and the inevitable elbows-to-the-face from being in a confined space with the man.

    Ask me later about riding the train together for our honeymoon…there’s nothing like being completely hidden behind your man as he walks in front of you in the teensie tiny train car hallways and popping out from under his armpit to scare the diner car dude. Hee hee…

    I often watch tall people easily reach things on the top shelf of their kitchen cabinet and ask them, “Hey, what’s it like having a whole area of your home accessible to you without using the BBQ tongs and a step-stool?

    Plus my eight year old is nearly eye to eye with me. That’s just wrong. Luckily I learned the grab ’em by the ear method of controlling kids from my mama. Works like a charm.

  • Clay
    My address will be emailed to you forthwith.
    what sort of label will you put on the front of the bottle

  • As a short person (5′) who married into a tall family… the fact of the matter is, tall or short – everyone gets laughed at in this family! My kids at 12 and 14 are much taller than me already, although my daughter is strangely still not very tall. It is rather nice having someone who can reach the top shelves, however it is very bad when that someone is the one who picked out the new toilet for our bathroom remodel…

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